“Do everything without
complaining or arguing, so that no one can criticize you.” Philippians
Do you ever
fret and fight over the small stuff? Of course. We all do! It’s a hard habit to
break because we’re negative by nature. Ever since Adam and Eve, we have been
going around excusing and accusing. We excuse our own mistakes and then accuse
others for their mistakes — and more. We hide, and we hurl. We blame others for
the problems in our lives.
2:14-15 says this: “Do everything without
complaining or arguing, so that no one can criticize you” (NLT). That may
be one of the most difficult verses in the Bible. Would you agree?
four types of complainers I run into all the time.
First are the whiners. You can get up in the morning and
say, “Good morning, Lord!” but whiners choose instead to say, “Good Lord, it’s
Second are the martyrs. Their favorite expression is,
“Nobody appreciates me!” They’re pros at throwing pity parties. They pout and
complain when they don’t get their way.
Third are the cynics. Their attitude is, “Why bother? It
isn’t going to make any difference.” They poison everything.
Fourth are the perfectionists. Nothing is ever good enough for
these complainers. Their favorite phrase is, “Is that the best you can do?”
To me, the
scariest verse in the Bible is Matthew 12:36: “Everyone will have to give account on the day of judgment for every
empty word they have spoken” (NIV).
That ought to
send shivers up your spine. How many times have you complained, whined, or
argued about something when you shouldn’t have been sweating the small stuff?
Don’t sweat the small stuff.
Instead, “Give thanks in all circumstances, for this
is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus” (1 Thessalonians 5:18).
Talk It Over
do you consistently complain about in your life? Would you consider these
things “small stuff”? Why or why not?
do “empty words” (Matthew 12:36)
reflect a focus on the small stuff in life?
do you think complaining makes something that is difficult seem even worse?